To me that is a silly question. Why would you need to believe in something that you actively experience and know is true?
Now if you were in space without an active experience of gravity but perhaps had heard about it from someone who lived on earth or read about it in a book or maybe briefly experienced it that would be more of an understandable question.
You don’t have to believe in something that you know is true or have a direct relationship with or actively experience.
Do you believe in God? It is a question that I am asked often enough to share my perception on the matter.
Belief is no longer necessary when God is known. Belief is a step toward knowing but not rooted in knowing. Because the way I see it is, why do you need to believe if you know and have an active experience of God.
Whenever someone asks me if I believe in God I get a glimpse into where their relationship is at with God.
So No, I don’t believe in God. I know God as I AM.
So often in life with nonprofits and government I hear words like….The war against drugs, the war against terrorism, and the fight against human trafficking. When I see things like this I know there will never be an end to it because what I see is that fighting and war only create more of the same. As long as one is looking for or standing in the space of a fight or war, something will always show up to fight or war against. Not only does a war continue with whatever we are fighting against but an internal war is also occurring.
Let’s end the internal battle first. When we shift this perspective internally to being a stand for something instead of a war or a fight against something, we bring the fight or battle to an end. Once the shift occurs internally then it can be brought forward into the organization. Then how this cause is implemented and managed inside of an organization will also shift. This allows the organization to bring forward change into the world from a much more grounded and centered place.
Here is a summary of the order of shifts
Internal shift on a personal level > Internal shift on an organizational level > External shift in how implemented or delivered to the world.
For example, what if instead of creating a context for drugs to be, the war against drugs, we become a stand for health and the end to drug addiction. What if we became a stand for the end of something we wish to no longer see in the world?
You can apply this conversation to things on a personal level as well. What things are you battling with in your life hoping that this will cause change? Are you fighting against a disease, cancer, a relationship, losing weight, a successful business or your competition, your boss or co-worker. Whatever it is a powerful shift in how you relate to any of these things can occur by ending the war against and stepping into being a stand for.
When the conversation for change can be rooted in a place of being a stand for something instead of against something, we create a much more powerful place for change to emerge and to be much more effective.
Would you like guidance in creating this shift internally inside of your organization? If so please connect with me.
Over the past several years I have been working on the practice of conserving my ejaculation when having sex. In the past sex was an avenue seen to orgasm and ejaculate and now sex has become so much more. Here is what has shifted and why.
About 10 years ago I began to see that my ejaculation was so much more than just a mess to clean up after I came. I saw it as my most powerful essence. My cum was my most potent form of my creative power and essence as a sexual being. As I began to embrace my ejaculation as this potent form of energy I began to deeply appreciate women who also understood this. I also noticed that I began to embrace and appreciate a woman’s juicy essence to the same depth I had begun to embrace my own.
When I had a partner who didn’t understand this I would take the time to help them see a more powerful and enlightened perspective of our sexual essence. There were times where I would meet women who were unable to grasp or appreciate what I was trying to show them and inevitably I would stop engaging with them. Why would I want to give the best of me to someone who isn’t able to appreciate the gift that it is?
As I continued on this journey I learned about the power of conserving my ejaculation and went long periods, weeks and even a few months without ejaculating. In these times of conservation my level of clarity increased, my ability to feel others increased, my awareness and perceptions got so focused and clear and my desire to penetrate the world with my masculine presence and love increased significantly. My confidence around women increased and my desire to fuck a woman so deeply with all of me went through the roof.
Another key component to this shift was learning how to have non-ejaculatory orgasms. This took me several years to figure out but now there are times when I orgasm and don’t ejaculate. I think my longest orgasm in recent memory was 10min. It was wave after wave of bliss and my partner loved it. Learning how to orgasm and have multiple orgasms has been one of the keys to shifting my perspective on ejaculation because now I am able to orgasm without ejaculation.
I am still finding a balance of when I conserve my ejaculation and when I choose to give it to my partner but there are a few things that are very clear.
I no longer am looking to cum just to cum.
I am not going to give the best of me to someone who isn’t able to truly appreciate it.
The longer I can go without ejaculating the more powerful the gift is for myself.
In essence it’s a balance of conserving it for myself and giving it to my partner.
PS…There is a world for women to explore in how to use their partner’s ejaculation to increase their own power and intensity of the eroticism in the moment.
Ever since I was a child I loved to organize. I would organize my room so that everything was in the right and most efficient place. I would organize blocks and Construx into buildings, forts and expansive designs. Everywhere I would go I would see how to order my environment and experience of the world. To me organization brings order which allows peace, clarity, purpose, directness to be brought forth with the greatest of ease.
I have explored the far side of extreme order where I would get into analysis paralysis or perhaps more aptly stated organization paralysis. I have also gone through times where I have completely let go of organization and allowed myself to live in chaos, disorder and flow without structure.
By giving myself the freedom to explore the extremes of both of these side I have developed the ability to feel into the experience, the desire outcome and surrounding circumstances to bring forward the right mix of organization and disorder in how I construct my reality.
I see that one of the greatest ways to express the freedom available to every individual is to give yourself permission to explore the other side and full range of any way of being. In doing so you are able to make micro energetic distinctions though the wisdom of experience that would otherwise be unavailable to you.
How can you truly know freedom and how free you really are if you haven’t given yourself the freedom and permission to explore all ways of being?
Over the past several years circumstances out of my control have cleared from my life things that we in the way of me reaching my highest potential. Over the past month life has brought me circumstances that has guided me to go even deeper within myself. Solidifying the foundation that was started by rooting even deeper into all that I have realized myself to be and all that I know that I am. Life is guiding me to ground and anchor so deeply into my true divine nature that no matter what occurs externally it does not take me out of grounding into this source of being.
As I have grounded into this source of being it has enabled me to become more consistent with my daily habits. My daily habits lead to building what I desire to create.
As I have grounding into this source of being it has enabled me to have the strength and courage to more consistently follow my highest intuitive guidance. Following my highest intuitive guidance allows me to bring about all that I desire in the most complete and fulfilling way.
As I go deeper with this relationship with source, my inner child, myself (all synonymous in this case) I can feel an unmovable, unshakable and undeniable presence come forward.
To create great things it requires to do things that feel hard on a consistent basis. My path, which is different that it has been in the past, is how kind and loving can I be to myself as I go about doing things that feel hard. What I am seeing is that as I take on things that feel hard to do it becomes even more important to spend time with my inner child asking myself “What do you need from me right now?” And feeling the response of “This. What you are doing right now. Giving me your loving attention.”
I can feel a healthy balance being created guided by my intuition and intention. The balance of doing what feels hard so that I can bring forward all that I desire and consistently loving myself through the process.
What I am discovering is how amazing it feels and how with the most conscious approach, I can have it all.
Have you ever been a part of a group where you felt like you had to give up a level of personal freedom or expression to stay apart of that group? Maybe it was a group of friends in highschool or college that you felt like you had to act a certain way that wasn’t truly you to fit in and stay a part of the group. Maybe you have been in a group where one of the leaders tried to control you or have you operate in a way that felt unhealthy or was only serving their needs.
The vibration or consciousness of a group originates from its leaders, the policies and procedures these leaders create and then how these are actually held up in reality. When there is someone who brings a more free way of being into a group where control is the predominant paradigm that individual will either adjust to the less free way of being, be cast out or they will raise the group’s consciousness so that it operates at a higher functioning level.
In prison I was kicked out of the “whites” because I choose to be nice and kind to other races. The whites didn’t like that I treated other races just like everyone else. This was threatening to them and saw that I weakened the group because of how I treated others.
When this happened the leader of the whites made up all kinds of stories to justify kicking me out. He shunned me and told the other whites not to associate with me. He told me I could no longer sit with the whites at meals and if we had been friends on facebook I am sure he would have unfriended me. (there was no facebook access in prison)
After all of this happened a few of the whites came to me and told me that they respected how I handled the situation and they wished they could have made the same stand but that they were afraid and would stay associated as a white.
In prison I choose not to play the game of prison politics because I felt this limited my full expression of being.
Are you willing to sacrifice freedom for safety, opportunity, or acceptance? I for one am not willing to sacrifice freedom for these things. I am here as a stand for freedom as an expression of freedom. Freedom is one of my most important values.
Group dynamics, patterns and levels of group consciousness are extremely hard to shift. The only way it is possible is if the leaders of the group shift or if enough people in the group shift to cause the leaders to face what they haven’t been willing to face. It may only take one person to cause a shift or it may take hundreds or thousands. In the end it is what you are willing to stand for and what you are willing to give up to be free.
Think and Grow Rich is one of the classics of success and personal development literature. Most people who have ventured into this world of study have at least heard of this book and many have read it.
When I read this book about 15 years ago I took it on whole heartedly. I wrote out my declaration for wealth and read my wealth statement daily. The biggest things I took from this book was to create a burning desire for wealth, fan the flame every day and allow this desire for wealth to become an obsession.
Ultimately these actions only lead me to creating massive attachment to wealth, my businesses, and how people perceived me. Money and wealth became an obsession which created an unhealthy relationship with this area of my life. I began to see people as objects in my road map to wealth as opposed to human beings. This book influenced me to objectify my relationship with others for the purpose of wealth creation.
Did this book actually help me create more wealth in my life?……Yes it did but the results were created from a very unhealthy place and in the end this book only created a mindset that needed to be rewritten so that a more healthy, grounded relationship with money and wealth could be established.
Another interesting observation is that as I have looked at the people who have recommended this book many of them have not created significant wealth themselves and those that have created some level of success have done so through selling the same type of hype, positive mental attitude thinking, or some sort of success program that is the premise for the entire book itself.
To give the book some credit the idea of the mastermind is very powerful and one that I have greatly benefited from and continue to still use in my life.
In conclusion I don’t recommend this book because it creates a mindset for an unhealthy relationship with money and wealth and it seems to beget success stories of individuals, more often than not, who have created their wealth from selling books, workshops or programs of teaching people how to be successful or wealthy.
What are your thoughts on this classic of success literature?
Are there any books on this topic that you feel bring a more grounded and healthy approach to money and wealth creation?
You may already be familiar with the “I love you” practice I have shared in past posts. This is where to my own self I say the words “I love you”. As I really began to take on this practice of being my own source of love there were some unique ways in which I discovered loving myself that opened up greater freedom on the inside which has directly impacted how life responds to me. One of these ways is saying the words “I love you” to my genitals. What this has opened up for me on the inside as well as within my sexual relationships is quite profound.
This idea opened up to me through applying the I love you practice to different parts of my body when I would dry off when getting out of the shower. To each body part I would give an I love you or two as I dried it off. On a side note, I tend to give my feet lots of love and appreciation because I feel like they are one the most important yet easily forgotten about parts of the body.
One day the idea popped into my head one day to spend additional time saying “I love you” to my penis and balls because why not. My penis and balls love to receive. And as my own source of love I am here to love all of me exactly as I desire to be loved.
So here is the practice…
To my own penis and balls I say the words “I love you” over and over again. Not in a sexual way but in a way in which I am loving a part of my body.
When I first started to do this so much sadness came up for me. This sadness arose for several reasons. There was sexual shame that I was still carrying and also I realized how disconnected my heart had been to this part of my body. It was if there was two different parts of me, my genitals and my heart.
Even though I felt like I was a masterful lover I realized such a huge gap in how connected I was to this part of my own body. How good I thought I was in bed was different than how connected I felt to my own genitals. I could fuck someone and not have to feel connected to them yet I deeply desired connection.
Over time as I continued to do this I felt like I had restored the connection and relationship to this part of my body. In essence what this practice did was reconnected my heart to my balls and cleared any shame that I had been carrying around sexuality. I now feel so free in how I use the gift of my sex and sexual energy. I feel I have discovered how to give this gift in a way that honors myself and the person I am with.
As I have loved my own penis and balls so deeply it has enabled me that when I am with a sexual partner to offer this as a gift to them. It is a profound gift and experience to be able to love my partner’s genitals as deeply as I have loved my own. In a future post I will share some of the things I have said to my to my sexual partners privates. The impact and the depth of intimacy that is created through this is profound.
Why not give it a try? Take a few moments to love say some “I love yous” to your cock and balls. Feel weird? Try starting with another part of your body. Can you say I love you to your hands and feet? How about saying I love you to other parts of your body? Once you get more comfortable with the idea of giving different parts of your body love come back to your privates and give it a try.
Here is what love revealed to me today…..There is no end to how deeply this surrender goes. Every new thing that comes into my life just becomes the next thing to surrender into. As each layer of life adds on to the next the depth of surrender emerges.
Over the past week I have had massive breakthroughs in my eating habits and other habits that have felt so elusive, difficult to maintain or required a lot of effort to hold in place.
Now the next level of surrender has been revealed around how I have done work throughout the day. It’s time to surrender into how I do work so these control patterns can be released.
The paradigm of control continues to crumble in my life. I see so clearly the fundamental flaw in the whole PMA and Personal Development approach to living.
The fundamental flaw in these paradigms is the control they attempt to give someone over their thoughts, feelings, and actions with the promise that you will create the life of your dreams and accomplish all of your goals. And while you can create the life of your dreams and accomplish all of your goals you create a prison of control for yourself in the process.
I had created the life of my dreams traveling the world with a beautiful woman, running three different companies, living life how I wanted. But I was on a spinning hamster wheel that I couldn’t get free from.
Being in prison for 19months freed me from my own personal cage of control.
Another way has slowly emerged. A way that begins with the willingness to let it all go. A way that allows life to bring you all that you desire without the prison of control.
The Universe has been unrelenting in wanting me to surrender it all. This path required the willingness to face every fear I have had, the willingness to surrender to the possibility of every outcome, and the willingness to let go of everything that I have loved and valued. But this is the path I chose. This is why I am here.
I feel like I am being pulled into a vortex where everything I desire is being drawn toward me and all that I have to do is to continue to surrender and be willing to let it all go as it comes to me.
It is paradoxical and counter-intuitive from all that the Success and Personal Development Paradigm has taught me. Instead of controlling my thoughts and feelings to manage my states so that I can maintain a powerful state of being, completely surrender, let go into life, where I am free to think whatever I think, where I am free to feel whatever I am feeling, where I am free to do whatever I do.
Its endlessly tiring to try to manage your vocabulary so you don’t say “but” or “try” or “can”. It’s endlessly tiring to continue to avoid or escape feeling sad, bored, lonely, or afraid through “State Change”. This for me was part of the hamster wheel because if I slowed down or stopped trying to manage my states a lifetime of unfelt and avoided emotion was there. And if I didn’t continue to perform, succeed, hit new heights, then who would I be….a failure? the norm? average?
I was taught not to be average, not to settle for the norm, not to fail, not to make mistakes and I felt like I had to keep the hamster wheel going or this is what I would become.
Now as I slowly rebuild my life from a place of power and not force, from a place of surrendered will not force of will the depth of freedom I am experiencing continues to expand.
I discovered a depth of freedom in prison that I had never known on the outside. This freedom continues to expand the more deeply I surrender and it infiltrates every aspect of my being, as it penetrates every cell of my body.
Surrender has brought me the freedom I have always desired. “I love you” and loving my inner child so deeply has enabled me to feel safe enough and loved enough to surrender into life.